If you’re cruising for public sex, you’re certainly not alone. Here's some important information before exploring the great outdoors in San Francisco.
If you’re cruising for public sex, you’re certainly not alone. Parks have always been a meeting spot for men from all walks of life. Some of what’s out there may be right up your alley -- but there’s probably going to be stuff that’s just not your thing. It’s best to be prepared:
- Bring only what’s essential. Leave your iPod, wallet, cash or stuff you don’t want to lose behind. While there’s always the chance for theft, it’s more likely that with your pantaround your ankles, things are going to fall out. Jackets with zippered pockets work well to keep things secure.
- Don’t go cruising when you’re too wasted on drugs or alcohol – you might be more sloppy, exposing yourself to unsafe situations.
- If you’ve never been to the spot before, check it out during the day to get a mental map of the place.
- Trust your instincts about who you meet since you can’t expect a lot of talking. Use all of your senses, from your ears to your nose, to suss out potential partners. If something makes you uncomfortable, keep moving.
- Bring a rag or mini-wipes to clean up with if sticky or smelly fingers aren’t your thing.
- Put condoms or lube some place easy to reach like a front pocket that isn’t storing any other valuables.
- Never lie to the police. If for some reason they do stop you, which happens because public sex is illegal, don’t bullshit them about why you’re there. By not insulting their intelligence, they may be more likely to let you go.
Know Before You Go:
Buena Vista Park: With all the paths, nooks and crannies, it’s best to check it out during
the daylight hours first so you can get familiar with the terrain before going during the busy after-dark hours.
Collingwood Park: While the streets that border the park are a hookup spot late at night, most guys take their tricks home or get busy in their car somewhere. The outdoor action isn’t in full swing like it used to be -- mostly because, Collingwood has become a family park in recent years and the police monitor it pretty regularly. If you do mess around outside, please clean up when you’re done – it’s a schoolyard after all.
Baker Beach & Land’s End: There’s some action going on but it’s changed over the years. Both of these spots are on the tour bus route so expect that at any moment, hoards of sightseers can show up. The most important caution is that since these are National Parks, getting caught is a Federal Offense. People do get busted.
The Windmills: The bottom of Golden Gate Park can be pretty dark at night. Guys meet in cars and on the pathway between the two windmills.
University/College Bathrooms: Just remember that the campus police know what’s going on in there and do visit periodically.